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Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Renewal
Recently I mentioned the fact that I was going thru a renewal process. So I sat down and decided to make a list... 12 steps to be exact of what I think the renewal process should be. These steps are 1 for every month of the year. I did it like this to keep me on my toes. Each month you should start a new step but also continuing with the previous steps as well. So as time goes by I will add a new step until I have all 12.
Step 1: Renew your mind. Remove all negative thoughts, feelings and emotions. Remove all negative energy. This is a little hard to do but can be done. anytime something negative comes your way remove yourself. This is a good time for you to get closer to you higher power whomever that may be.
Step 2: Change your focus: What you focus on becomes thought. Thoughts turn into decisions. Decisions becomes actions. Actions becomes results. Results become your life. What that means is this: whatever you put your time into will become your life. If you are focusing on a man, keeping a man, getting a man, a career, money etc.. that will consume u. It will eat you alive. Results bringforth experiences and consequences. Experinces are immediate. Consequences not so much. Example.. you meet a guy at the club. He has the car the money the bling. You decide to go home with him. The experience he was the best you ever had. The consequence you found out your pregnant and HIV positive. Maybe thats extreme but you get my point. Its 2009 its time to get right or get left. Better yourself. Do better for your children. Stop looking for handouts as if the world owes u. Stop blaming others for your situation. If you are grown then you have choices. But know that there will be consequences. Good or bad you will have them.
Step 3: Change your inner circle: Sometimes those closest to us do us more harm. You cannot allow everyone to be in your front row. Some folk are just haters. If whenever a certain person comes around there is always choas theres a good chance they should be removed.
Step 4: Embrace yourself. Everyone has something they do not like about themselves. Be accepting of you. If you don't love, respect and appreciate yourself how can anyone else? Why would anyone else? This is the time dedicated to you. No one else. Take yourself out and pamper yourself. Shut off the phone dont answer the door. Catch up on all the things you wanted to do but never got around to it.
Step 5: Detox. Stop smoking, exercise, lose weight, eat healthy, get off the phone, stay off the net, end toxic relationships. Whatever it is that has you hostage now is the time to let go. You dont have to give things up completely unless you want. But this is the time to have burdens removed and yokes destroyed. Get free from all bondage.
Step 5.5: Get an accountability partner. This is someone you trust. It CANNOT be a spouse. You have to remain open and honest at all times. Transparent. This person should know what you are trying to accomplish and should keep you on your toes. They should be available whenever you need them. Its good to meet or talk once a week to keep eachother updated. This person should also be called when you are feeling weak and thinking about going back to your old ways/habits/mindset etc..
If it helps keep a journal to see if you've changed at all during this year.
Remember in order to change your world you have to first change yourself.
This is just a lil something I'm doing. Not a New Years Resolution.I don't bleve in those. I'll keep you posted.
Step 1: Renew your mind. Remove all negative thoughts, feelings and emotions. Remove all negative energy. This is a little hard to do but can be done. anytime something negative comes your way remove yourself. This is a good time for you to get closer to you higher power whomever that may be.
Step 2: Change your focus: What you focus on becomes thought. Thoughts turn into decisions. Decisions becomes actions. Actions becomes results. Results become your life. What that means is this: whatever you put your time into will become your life. If you are focusing on a man, keeping a man, getting a man, a career, money etc.. that will consume u. It will eat you alive. Results bringforth experiences and consequences. Experinces are immediate. Consequences not so much. Example.. you meet a guy at the club. He has the car the money the bling. You decide to go home with him. The experience he was the best you ever had. The consequence you found out your pregnant and HIV positive. Maybe thats extreme but you get my point. Its 2009 its time to get right or get left. Better yourself. Do better for your children. Stop looking for handouts as if the world owes u. Stop blaming others for your situation. If you are grown then you have choices. But know that there will be consequences. Good or bad you will have them.
Step 3: Change your inner circle: Sometimes those closest to us do us more harm. You cannot allow everyone to be in your front row. Some folk are just haters. If whenever a certain person comes around there is always choas theres a good chance they should be removed.
Step 4: Embrace yourself. Everyone has something they do not like about themselves. Be accepting of you. If you don't love, respect and appreciate yourself how can anyone else? Why would anyone else? This is the time dedicated to you. No one else. Take yourself out and pamper yourself. Shut off the phone dont answer the door. Catch up on all the things you wanted to do but never got around to it.
Step 5: Detox. Stop smoking, exercise, lose weight, eat healthy, get off the phone, stay off the net, end toxic relationships. Whatever it is that has you hostage now is the time to let go. You dont have to give things up completely unless you want. But this is the time to have burdens removed and yokes destroyed. Get free from all bondage.
Step 5.5: Get an accountability partner. This is someone you trust. It CANNOT be a spouse. You have to remain open and honest at all times. Transparent. This person should know what you are trying to accomplish and should keep you on your toes. They should be available whenever you need them. Its good to meet or talk once a week to keep eachother updated. This person should also be called when you are feeling weak and thinking about going back to your old ways/habits/mindset etc..
If it helps keep a journal to see if you've changed at all during this year.
Remember in order to change your world you have to first change yourself.
This is just a lil something I'm doing. Not a New Years Resolution.I don't bleve in those. I'll keep you posted.
Labels: Journey To A Better Me
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