Dysfunctionally_Functioning

For anyone on the outside looking in who has never had to deal with kids, meaning youra or someone else's its so easy to say what you will and will not do. Ive heard a many a times you'll see when you get your own. Dont get it twisted, I completely understand that logic. What I dont understand is when it comes to respect or lack there of. I have watched from within the game and the sideline how this new generation is quick to get out of pocket. One thing that i have noticed is that now a days parents do EVERYTHING for their children. I couldnt pay my parents to take me and my friends anywhere or pick us up. I had to tom and jerry it (on foot), ride a bike, catch a ride or use public transportation. When I did get my own car, the rule was idc who paid for or pays for it, the first time i see a bunch of ninjas in it it will be parked. Also, chores is another issue. How do you complain about cleaning your room or the bathroom or the kitchen when my friends and myself had to clean our WHOLE houses and cook and do laundry? But, back to the respect issue. I have it double because not only am I dealing with a preteen, I am dealing with one that is not mine. Now, I treat all children the same. I will laugh, joke, do anything for you, but dont cross the respect line. My granny always said you play with a puppy and one day they will turn around and bite you. Now, the one that I am dealing with comes with a WHOLE lot of baggage and disfunction. Try to be patient and lienient on some things but there is a line. Umm maybe only in my mind because she doesnt think so. Well she gone learn TADAY. yeah Taday and not today. So, long story short im with some neighbors she comes by I tell her to go back and do something before coming out she rolls her eyes and keep going. I repeat myself she comes back smacks lips, rolls eyes allat. My neighbor say uh uhn why you giving her attitude? She says because I DONT LIKE HER!!!. Ummm, say wha? Needless to say there were some things that took place. I personally dont feel like it was enuff, but SHE GONE LEARN TADAY!!!See I see it like this: my money is being spent decently. School starts in 2 weeks. Lets see how much she likes wearing last years clothes and not getting her hair done. Lets see how she likes that. You can call it childish you can call it whatever you want. But you see I dont reward bad behavior. And of all the things that could happen: no phone, punishments, no computer, no game systems, hanging out with friends etc. Nothing hurts worse than your first day of middle school, wanting boys attention and for them to look at you and what your mama call a nice shape so you can show it off, than that lil ponytail and clothes that all your friends know you were wearing last year. Yup thats my punishment. nothing beats embarrassmenet. YOU GONE LEARN TADAY!!! I have been kind and patient, but if you wanna see the HULK that you've heard about now you gotem.