Dysfunctionally_Functioning

When is it that ppl actually mature? Case and point: my nephew is 25 years oldbut has not gotten to the place where he accepts responsibiity for his actions or life. Recently he has accused me off always being on him snd not cutting him a break. My thing is this you are a man we are ot children an you are now a father yourself when will you grow up. Noth8ing is ever his fault always always someone elses. at first I thought maybe this is because of the lack of male role models we had in our lives cause they were/are eith crackheads or alcoholics but then I kno plenty of en in the same boat who turned out different. What started this is right now we as a family is down to 1 car. moms car is in the shop sisters is in the shop and nephew got hooked by the repo man. So since everyone wants to go out on the weekend we are all trying to mske things work. My mom sister and myself all work or have school in anutha couty so this is extra hard on us. Well nephew doesnt seem to think she should put gas back in the vehicle or at least put the gas that was in there back. He thinks the more gas you have the more he can rie. Also hes had to move back home which I cant knock because I had to do the same just under different circumstances. He fels as though he should be able to lay up with his women even after being told repeatedly not to. So my sister tells him he has to be gone by theend of the year and he thinks shes wrong. Hesbeen home for 15 months. Dont relly hve to pay bills bills just hlp out around the house and have absolutely nothing to show for it. Granted hes been workiing here and there cause times are hard. However, when he had a reallygood job especially for round thes parts he lost it...y??? Cause he wanted to smoke weed. But guess what that wasnt his fault. So he stops smoking weed for 6 months get the gig he has now but gess what? Youre on them pills. Oh wait we ar not spose to kno that. Get paid on Thurs broke by Saturday. Debo-ing his brohers and cousins for their money but dont see nothing wrong with that. Its my falt hes not in ATL anymore whe I left the apt to him and our cousin who decided not to pay rent. Itsbabymoms fault hes on chsup when all she had to do was let him send the money to her insteadof getting yt fol in his business, its the credit unions fault he doesnt hae his car they kno how times is hard they coulda worked with him even though they havent been paid in 3 months. Its his rommates fault that they were kicked out of their apt which caused hm to move to Atl in the first place. Do you see where Im going with this? I partially blame our parents and grandparents for making life easier for us than it should have been but thats only about 15%. Im s over dude I mean really. Youre 25 with a decent job no real bills besides whatever moms ask and chsup yet when someone say something oh we cut eeryone else some slack but him. Are u FN serious? I dont kno if its the drugs if his oxygen was cut off in utero if I drugged him on the ground when we were small I am so confused asto how a grown man can think this way. Its definetely a case of the lil boy in a mans body. How long must this go on?I woud have thought losing everything is rock bottom but I guess not. When will we sto doing things for ppl they can and should be doing themselves? When will ppl gro the EFF up?

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